(I Probably Shouldn’t Tell This Story)

My first clue should have been that my eternally laid-back boyfriend was uncomfortable with it. “You look weirded out,” I said. “Are you weirded out? What’s wrong? Let’s talk it through.”

“I’m not . . . weirded out,” he said carefully. “I don’t know. I don’t know what I think. Something seems off about it to me, but I haven’t figured out what yet.” He paused, and I crossed my arms, eyes narrowing. “But obviously, if you really want to do it, you should do it.”

“Well, I’ve already told them I’m going to do it.”

“Yeah.”

“You didn’t seem weirded out when I brought it up before.”

“I guess I wasn’t sure that you were serious.”

* * *

What I knew about the party: there would be a magician, and a hypnotist, and a belly dancer. It was a benefit for something or another. And they needed models to walk around wearing nothing but booty shorts, heels, and body paint. Unpaid. (I’m a real sucker for unpaid. It says to me, “intrinsically valuable.” “Resume-building.” “Spiritually rewarding.”)

I had just joined the burlesque troupe a few days earlier, and still caught up in the sweet frenzy of our holiday show, I envisioned two scenarios:

1.) This was taking place in a dimly lit museum, after hours. The artist was young, beautiful, insane. We’d walk around with his schizophrenia swirled around our belly buttons and shoulder blades in dashes of blood-crimson, sunshine-yellow, deep cobalt. The patrons would casually glance down their noses, reaching for another flute of champagne from traveling trays, delicately fried meats wrapped around tiny fruits stabbed through with toothpicks. “Isn’t that interesting,” they would say. “You know, I preferred his earlier work.”

2.) This would be madness, a drunken, surreal circus. In an explosion of glitter and rhinestones, the magician would pull a headless body out of a hat. The hypnotist would have us all thinking we were floating down the Nile. Once painted, I would become a shapeshifter: blending into walls, appearing out of thin air onto the dance floor, dancing like a lizard. When the belly-dancer emerged, we would all howl at the moon.

I would return home in the wee hours of the morning shivering, uncertain of who I was, whisper in my lover’s ear that I knew what it felt like to be a tree.

* * *

The magician picked us up a little late, and we got stuck in traffic. I was completely fine with this, in the way I am completely fine with anything when I’ve just dyed my hair.

He told us about the endless hours he works, the crazy parties he throws in his apartment (stripper pole!) (drugs!), and I dreamily leaned my head against the window, watching the sun set over the city. “I know so little about what goes on in these buildings,” I thought.

* * *

“Here we are!” he said. “I’ll just drop you girls off here, and go find a parking spot.”

We clambered out of the magician’s car, over velveteen suits and french-tipped wands, and stood there for a moment with our plastic bags on the sidewalk, looking up at the bar.

As soon as I saw the place, I realized exactly what I was in for. There was a rotating glass sculpture in the middle of the main room, lit in icy blue. The dance floor was surrounded with white leather booths, throw pillows. Pearl bead curtains hung from the walls. It was the kind of place where all the men wear Aqua Di Gio and all the women fake their nails/orgasms.

“Hiiiii!” the event coordinator beamed, embracing both of us in a fragile, space-respecting hug. “Let me show you into the VIP room — that’s where our makeup and body paint artists are.”

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What a Feeling!

You know the scene that occurs about 3/4 of the way through every dance movie, where the step that the dancer has been trying so hard to master, over and over in various montages, suddenly and miraculously clicks in their mind or legs or arms or wherever it’s supposed to click and suddenly bam! they can do it and their face is consumed with joy? Yeah. I have always cried at that scene.

Also, I could really use one of those in real life before next Friday.

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In Perpetuity And Throughout The Universe

A month or so ago, The Babes in Boinkland were invited to audition for America’s Got Talent. The audition would be an hour long, and if we passed it, the second audition would be in front of the America’s Got Talent Official Panel of Judges (read: David Hasselhoff).

I had just joined the Babes the week before. I was just beginning to learn that the rest of the troupe consists of dancers: women who have been in classes since they were five years old, who know ballet, swing, salsa. “I need to know who’s in, because if we progress, this is a huge commitment,” Sugar wrote. Like literally, Vegas.

I slept on that. By which I mean, I woke up several times during the night feeling like I was going to throw up. But just shortly after I wrote her back, confessing that there was no way I could learn choreography like the rest of the group and that I didn’t want to drag anyone down with me, she wrote a second email: “America’s Got Contracts.”

Part of the contract was that the contract could not be publicized or performed, but nobody had signed anything yet. And so here it is: The Contract, read by Sugar Dish (nsfw, if that’s not obvious).

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Shoes In Boinkland

1.) You have always considered yourself a flats kind of girl, for a multitude of reasons both form and functional. You walk everywhere, for one. Uninjured feet are essential. You’re completely satisfied with your height, for another — and secretly feel pretty pleased with yourself when someone looks up to ask “are you wearing heels?”, and you can respond “no.” Ha, ha.

But flats don’t really go with burlesque, and your wee black dancing shoes don’t really fit with the image of Glinda you need to pull of this Saturday, so — whatever, economy! — you go shoe shopping.

2.) You tell the shoe salesman (5’2″) that you have literally never worn heels that measure more than a couple centimeters, and you have no idea how to stand up, let alone walk, let alone dance. You stagger to the store mirror like an invalid.

“Just vacuum in them!” he tells you. “Wear them while you’re dusting, cleaning your apartment, that kind of thing. You’ll learn, no problem.” He grins.

You think he’s maybe being a sexist jerk, but the next day you try it out, and he’s totally right. It’s something about the small steps, the weight shifting back and forth, the third leg support of the vacuum. It’s like housework was invented for new shoes!

The only problem really, is that you feel like maybe you’re compromising some essential values. You’re still cool, right? Vacuuming in heels and shit?

3. Also: oh my goodness. Look at your legs. Look at your butt. Heels are amazing! “Ooo!” your boyfriend says. Then, “are you my height when you wear those?”

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Lessons From Boinkland

1.) The hardest part is keeping your head up and looking yourself in the eye in the mirror while you do that.

You try to look at yourself sexily but realize it just looks angry. You add a smile and it’s apologetic, a little self-deprecating. You look back down, and realize that with all this concentration on looking up, you’ve lost track of what you should have been doing with that glove, and now you’re in this weird crouch position and maybe you should shoot your leg out or something and oh hey that’s actually pretty hot —

“Lacy, keep your head up!” Sugar calls.

2.) Women’s magazines like to tell you that all women are snowflakes — by which they mean, we all hate some unique part of ourselves. The examples are usually something ridiculous, like ankles or nose bridges or ear lobes or some crap. We just obsess over these silly things, us girls! “Blah blah, I’m cross-eyed.” “Blah blah, there’s a hole in my scalp and my amygdala is exposed.”

But put thirty women of all different shapes, ages and sizes into a dance room and tell them to focus their dancing on their least favorite part, and they will all begin touching their stomachs. Every. Single. One.

3.) “I learned,” I announced to the “Burlesque For Better Body Image” workshop taught by a true master and co-Slutcracker, “that I guess I don’t like focusing on my ‘best’ feature. I mean, my breasts are pretty great, but there’s not many ways I can call attention to them that isn’t vulgar. It feels kind of dumb — like, I don’t know, shouldn’t I just point to them? Done. But hell, my stomach? I could freaking work that shit.

The rest of the class nodded in unison. “Yeah!” someone cried.

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